Welcome to my happiness blog! If you have ever felt stuck, discouraged, and not knowing how to just be happy, this blog is for you. Here you will find practical, no-nonsense tips and articles for overcoming the most common obstacles to happiness.
My Story
Who am I? I am a middle-aged female who has been through the wringer and back. I have experienced periods of happiness in my life, and I have known deep unhappiness. And I have faced many challenges and difficulties that left me wondering if I would ever experience true, lasting happiness.
Today, I am the happiest I have ever been because I finally discovered a secret to happiness that seemed so basic and simple, it practically blew my mind. And now I want to share this secret with you.
The Secret to Happiness
The secret I learned is that happiness is a choice and personal responsibility we each must fully own. I discovered that we must first decide we want to be happy, and then be willing to make the necessary changes to create the version of life we want. I also learned that no one can truly make us happy except for ourselves, and that it takes deliberate, conscious effort to choose a happy state of mind, no matter what is happening around us. There is even scientific proof that happiness is a decision or choice we each need to make, if we truly want to be happy.
Through various trials and tribulations, I learned that happiness is not handed to us simply because life finally goes our way. It is also not a goal or prize we earn and gain after obtaining the perfect relationship, job, home, or set of life circumstances.
For much of my life, I falsely believed that my happiness depended on what was happening externally. When life felt good on the outside, I felt good. When life fell apart, I fell apart. This created a yo-yo effect because my inner state depended almost entirely on external conditions and circumstances.
Taking Full Ownership
I reached a point where I could no longer wait for my circumstances to improve before allowing myself to feel better. I began to take an inventory of my life and decided to embrace full ownership of my happiness, which meant examining my attitude, my thoughts, my lifestyle, my life choices, my healing process, and where I devoted my energy, time, and focus.
While we cannot control everything that happens to us, I learned that we can choose how we respond, what we focus on, what we allow and don’t allow, and whether we move through life as passive victims or proactive participants.
It is Not About Toxic Positivity
This does not mean ignoring our pain, denying hardships, or pretending everything is perfect. It means we stop handing all our power over to other people, disappointments, negative experiences, and any other external factor or condition. It means we begin to ask ourselves an important and pivotal question, “what can I do to feel better, to feel more positive, to make better choices, and live a happier life, today?”
Happiness Depends on Our Outlook and Attitude
Happiness also depends on our outlook through challenges. We can choose to focus on all that is good, possible, within our control, and what helps move us forward. Or, we can choose to focus on all the negatives we perceive and feel sour, bitter, discouraged, and unhappy. Each day, we have a choice. We can choose to focus on positives versus negatives, which improves our state of mind and happiness level.
Explore My Blog Topics
In my happiness blog, I provide practical tips on various ways to be happy, addressing the most common obstacles and barriers to happiness, while offering guidance on how to improve happiness in daily living.
Explore topics in Personal Development, Relationships, and Career to gain concrete tips on how to be happier in your life starting right now.
Learn More
Visit About Me to learn more about my personal and professional background, my process of transformation, and how I came to this eye-opening, fundamental understanding of needing to take full responsibility for our happiness and ourselves.
Thanks for reading my blog, and here’s to your journey to happiness!