There is much in life that is beyond our control to change. We can moan and groan about life all we want, we can be despondent and unhappy about circumstances beyond our control, however, the bottom line is – we become unhappy as a result.
What good does that do us in the end? We’re unhappy. So why not accept all that is not within our control and be happier?
Acceptance is key. Complaining, worrying, fretting and moaning and groaning does no good, and in fact, makes those around us just as miserable as we are.
Acceptance does not have to mean approval. Acceptance simply is a way to approach all that is beyond our control with a new attitude to gain greater peace of mind.
We can still disapprove of certain things in life, but acceptance allows us to let go of a disgruntled state of mind and move on with more important things in our lives.
There is also much that is within our control that can be changed.
If we are miserable in a job, for example, we can beef up our resume and start looking for another. If leaving that job is impossible, we can focus on anything we do enjoy about the role and still achieve a state of greater happiness.
Anything in life that we can change or improve upon, we should take steps to do so if we are feeling unhappy and miserable – whether that be with oneself, one’s job or career path, one’s marriage, living situation or interpersonal relationships – all of these things are within our power to change and improve upon.
When we accept and let go and simply work on what is possible and within our reach, we can be much happier. We can feel lighter and less burdened by fears, anxiety or worry.
When we take steps toward improvement in our lives, we can feel a sense of personal accomplishment, satisfaction and empowerment, which contributes to our happiness and well-being.
That which is not within our control, we can hope for the best and look for silver linings. It is all a matter of our attitude. Once we shift our attitude, great changes can occur both within and around us.
So, here’s to changing what you can, and accepting the rest!